sweet nothings.

Its nice to be called "babe", "my girl" or even cheesy names like "honey bee", but it means nothing when those terms of endearment don't have actions to follow. 

Anybody can use those names or say sweet things to brighten up your day. 

Here is a small list of sweet/corny things that make your heart flutter, but others want to puke:

• sending good morning text messages
• telling you how beautiful you look
• use winky faces after a flirty message
• cuddle
• hold hands
• tight hugs
• tell you "i miss you"

These are just some simple things, but when done by the right person, can get your heart pumping like you just finished running 10 miles. 

But does it really mean something? Or is it just one way to keep you hanging on? If you think about it, those actions that are listed are pretty generic. Hate to break it to you, sweetie, but there are jerks out there who mass text sweet 'hellos', hold your hand or cuddle just because he feels like it not because it "feels right", say "i miss you" but not go out of his way to see you.

Always be on the look out for sweet nothings, they must be followed by sweet actions consistently, or else you're in something called being led on.

with a little bit of effort...

Lets face it, most guys like to be the dominant one in relationships. Now lets not get into the whole feminist, "woman-go-make-me-a-sandwich", chivalry debate. Not the blog I am writing about right now. All I'm saying is they like to feel like they are in control, it's human nature.

Now with that being said, us ladies can use this to our complete advantage. So it didn't work out with the last douchebag I mean guy. But you know what, in the words of Jay-Z, "I'm on to the next one, on to the next one".

After my week (or so) of sulking and annoying my friends to the point of phone-number-deletion-due-to-incessant-drunk-calling-to-the-guy, I stumbled upon this quote from one of my favorite chick flicks He's Just Not that Into You:

"if a guy wants to be with a girl, he will make it happen, no matter what"

and just like that it hit me like a ton of bricks: if he really wanted to be with me, he would do anything (or most normal-average-culturally-accepted) things to be with me, to contact me, to get a hold of me.

so the next time I decide to let my guard down again, I wont do any work in trying to build a stable relationship. if he really wanted to be with me, he'll do anything.

totally kidding, but what I will do is to read the signs better, maybe initiate a couple of things here and there but see if the guy will make any effort to woo me. 

oh look a new message from an unsaved number...hm.

yeah, well, we will see how this goes...in the mean time:

blast this in your headphones, and walk away from the bull like a boss. Deuces, son!

500 days, wasted.

Okay, maybe not 500 days but...close enough.

If you haven't read my previous blog 

and you're questioning what to put up as your Facebook official status

...read it for your own sake 

before you get stuck in your delusional dreams

 that may or may not be crushed 

unless you ask the question from my previous blog. 

So if it is too late for you, and you did not read my blog,

you have the movie 500 Days of Summer on blu-ray,

looping over and over again with a pint of Ben&Jerrys Dulce Delish

then I raise my spoonful of ice creamy goodness to you,

to us, we have been screwed over. Cheers.

So you avoided the question of what you two are exactly,

maybe because you thought you were on the same page

or were too scared to ask,

whatever the reason may be,

 it can't change the damage that has already been done.

Or maybe you did pluck up the courage and brought up that topic,

 but things did not turn out as you expected in your head. 

The next step, for either situation is to simply move on. 

Lets face it, yes you exerted a lot time, effort and feelings 

on this significant person that you can't get back

but there is no use to hold onto something that isnt there anymore.

I know for a fact, it is easier said than done, however it can be done!

Sure give yourself some time to cry yourself to sleep, 

turn off all forms of light, lay in your bed and think of what could've been, 

but after a few days or so, enough is enough.

Don't give them the satisfaction of knowing you are grieving over them

They could be so sick in the head to be happy over your misery.

Don't let them win anymore of your time! 

Remember  you are worth more 

than to be someones option, 

you should be someones priority.

Always remind yourself you only deserve the best.

Try not to think of it as wasted time and effort anymore,

thank the person (not literally) that they showed you what you 

don't want  from someone you  want to be with.

let me leave you with this, look past the obnoxious attitude, his humor should make you feel better (: